A couple that provides part-time care for two young children has been told to avoid exposing them to sex and their polyamorous lifestyle after safety concerns were voiced.
The New Zealand Herald writes that the 4-year-old kid began daytime wetting while the 9-year-old daughter displayed sexualized behaviour when playing with her Barbie dolls.
They were raised in a blended family, and the boy’s mother and the girl’s father claim that the polyamorous couple subjected the kids to psychological abuse while they were in their custody.
Carl and Judith Blake* were found to have had a polyamorous lifestyle, in which they had multiple romantic or sexual relationships at once, according to a New Zealand Family Court ruling made public today.
When the couple met and fell in love in 2018, their children, Valerie, 9, and Carl’s son Lucas, 4, became stepsiblings. Shortly after they met, Carl moved in with Judith, but Lucas was only 16 months old at the time.
She shared a bed with her fiancé and a toddler slept in a cot in the same bedroom because they were all living with her at the time.
A few months later, Judith’s fiancé ended things, and in February 2019, she wed Carl.
The other two adolescent kids of Judith, Valerie, and Lucas were all present one evening in October of that same year when a sexual experience with a Tinder date occurred in the living room.
The home was quite small, with a bedroom shared by Lucas and Valerie at the end of a hallway leading to the open-concept living area. Between the hallway and the lounge, there was no door. The young men were camped out in a separate structure behind the house.
Judith claimed that instead of participating in the group sex, she sat on the couch and watched to keep an eye on the closed bedroom door of the small children.
They claimed that there was no danger of any of the four kids coming in on them since Judith would have stepped in — a judge’s observation
“I don’t think Judith’s concentration was totally devoted to listening for the kids and keeping an eye out for them. She made the decision to stay in the lounge when Carl and [the other woman] were having sex, King stated in his ruling.
The judge argued that in that case, it would have been more child-focused for the adults to engage in sexual activity in a location away from the four children who were present at the house that evening.